Throughout Brene Brown's research, she looks to break down vulnerability. Everyone has a story. So, what makes someone who they are? In Browns research, she asked participants questions, collecting their story. The questions served to develop an understanding of their life experiences; positive questions were answered with negatives.
These people felt that what made them vulnerable was shame, not something they should embrace. I think vulnerability is different from that of weakness. Similarly, as she described being a parent, what makes them vulnerable is loving with their whole heart and knowing there will be struggles for themselves and their child.
Rather than fearing or being ashamed of a struggle, parents should embrace that feeling to be the power of creation. Things that make us vulnerable or insecure should not be put to shame by us or anyone else.
I think a way that we can work to embrace any vulnerabilities in life is to understand
what makes us the way we are. We should try to understand how being vulnerable has helped us throughout our life. Being able to not shy away from it is empowering, where hiding and pretending it doesn't exist is more of a weakness. Understanding and thinking about what makes us feel emotion allows us to understand ourselves, providing room for growth.
Our lives give us a chance to experience different things: good and bad. We can take this
time to understand what is around us. Taking advantage of opportunities for understanding others creates an atmosphere where we can learn to empathize other’s emotions. Brown expresses that we should accept the messiness and work to clean it up, but we should not sweep it under the rug and pretend the job is done. We should think about effective ways to solve problems and comprehend what we are feeling and how we can connect with others to assist in a process of healing. Being vulnerable has allowed us to feel what we may not be conscious of; we need to work on stepping back from our busy lives to accept what makes us human.
Taylor Ketcham is a senior success manager at Michael Sgro Leadership Coaching. She is currently a senior at St. John Fisher College in Rochester, New York. Taylor is a Resident Assistant, student athlete and has a passion for topics in leadership and self-development.